House Share: What we learned living with strangers (2024)

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What six people in their 20s learned from taking part in new BBC Three show HouseShare

Warning: This article contains minor spoilers for BBC Three show HouseShare

Even if you're lucky enough to live with mates rather than strangers who "didn't look too bad" online, shared bank accounts can be fraught and messy. But what about if your house's joint account wasn't just for loo roll? How would you feel about sharing ALL your wages with your housemates?

That's what a group of people agreed to do as part of BBC Three show HouseShare, which sees six people from across the UK move into a house together in London. The deposit has been paid for them but there's a catch – for six weeks they have to share all their finances – the money coming in goes to the collective pot – and the money being spent comes out of it.

Sharing a house is generally a good way of reducing what you spend on rent, especially useful in a big city.

And given that up to a third of millennials are reported to be facing renting their entire lives, perhaps it isn't surprising that these people were willing to give an experimental approach a chance.

From the minute the group move into their new home – food, transport, after-work drinks and expensive designer shoes (yes, this happens) are charged to their joint account. While those who don't already have jobs in London look for work, their employed housemates have to support their living costs.

Unsurprisingly, this communism-style approach leads to rising tensions as the housemates fight over spending and saving.

We spoke to them about their experiences – here's what they learned.

Paul Laverick, 23

Did the cost of anything surprise you?The price of a haircut was obscene. I'm from a little coastal village called Merton where you can get a haircut for £5 – and a decent one as well – but down in London I was looking at £25. I just don't know how people do it.

What did you learn?I initially only did the show for a bit of craic and so I could move out sooner. I know it sounds clichéd but I actually learnt how to budget. I realised I didn't need to spend money on a bottle of wine after a hard day at work, or be buying clothes I don't need. Now I prefer to save those pennies on things that matter, like experiences.

Top tip for budgeting:Make sure you've got everything paid off, you've paid your rent, you've paid your bills, so regardless of what happens you're not gonna get kicked out. I know now that as long as I've got something to eat and somewhere to live I'm fine – so I can make sure I have a good work-life balance too.

Muna Gullam, 21

Did the cost of anything surprise you?My biggest struggle was lunches. When I was living in Essex, it wasn't a big deal if I didn't ever bring my food in. I was spending around £8 (a day) so it was a big shock when I realised that buying lunches was a luxury. Now I've cut that in half, and want to cut it in half again.

What did you learn?Before, I didn't really ever look at my finances. I hadn't realised how expensive the city was as an adult with rent and bills. Now, as soon as I get paid, I like to sit down and work out all of my outgoings – how much I can save – and then actually stick to it – it's now something I really value.

Top tip for budgeting:Always have a rainy day fund, if things go wrong and you're all alone in a new city things can become really overwhelming really quickly.

Jess Berrisford, 22

Did the cost of anything surprise you?Club entry!

What did you learn?I'd never really done many interviews – so I was really nervous in the ones I did on the show. From what I learnt I now go into interviews feeling more confident and I found it way easier to get a job.

Top tip for budgeting:Save money weekly! I don't ever want to put myself in that situation again where I had no money. Oh and even though I will never change, spend less on drinking!

James Cruickshank, 27

Did the cost of anything surprise you?The first time I got a pint I was so shocked. £6 for a pint. In Shetland they are £3.

What did you learn?I wouldn't have moved this far without the show, but I was hungry a lot and people are way messier than you think. Seriously though, I learnt to budget far better. I've opened a new bank account so I know what I can and can't spend each month – I have a separate budget for food, travel, rent and going out.

Top tip for budgeting:Prepare yourself to be more sensible – you're not going to have a lot of money.

Rian Morgan, 21

Did the cost of anything surprise you?Not really, but it was nice to not fork out £600 a month on commuting.

What did you learn?That I do like spending money. I've been working since I was 15 but money wasn't a discussion that comes up – I didn't realise I could survive on a lot less. I have been better with my money since then – I've moved back home, and I'm saving up to get a place of my own. I don't fancy having to share again.

Top tip for budgeting:You underestimate it a bit at first – money's not as easy to deal with as you think. I'd say just focus on the bigger picture really, if there's something you really want to do.

Olivia Butler-Fagbohun, 20

Did the cost of anything surprise you?I remember paying £1.30 for a pack of chewing gum and being so shocked. And paying for public toilets – that killed me off – how am I paying for a natural function?

What did you learn?It helped me grow in terms of the physical mastery of life, and being able to distinguish between what I need and what I want. The job hunting pushed me to follow my passions more, so I've signed up to an arts degree.

Top tip for budgeting:Moving is the best opportunity to start something new and manage your money better. It's not really budgeting advice but remember that when you go to this new city every single person there will see you for the first time.

HouseShare is on BBC iPlayer now.

House Share: What we learned living with strangers (2024)

FAQs

What does living with a roommate teach you? ›

Living with other people can teach you a lot about how to communicate your needs and boundaries, as well as how to be a good roommate yourself. These skills are invaluable, especially since you're likely to live with other people at many points during your life.

How to share a house with a stranger? ›

10 tips for sharing flat with strangers
  1. Meet your new flatmates in person. ...
  2. Ask questions. ...
  3. Don't live with friends. ...
  4. Be empathic. ...
  5. Find an accommodation 2 bathrooms. ...
  6. Collaborate with household chores. ...
  7. Don't forget you're not alone. ...
  8. Share service charges.

How to live with a stranger as a roommate? ›

You don't need a rule for everything, but creating a system of mutual respect will strengthen your relationship. The sooner you agree on basic topics, the less time negative feelings have to form. Even if you and your roommate are not necessarily best friends, you can still live together harmoniously.

What is it like living in a shared house? ›

Whilst it is great to have people around and as we have said you can always retreat to your room if you need to be alone, living in a shared house may feel a little cramped. If you are not someone who likes to spend lots of time in the company of others, then you may find that a shared home isn't the ideal option.

What are 3 things a roommate should know about me? ›

Personal bio
  • Brief bio: Where are you from? What is your major? ...
  • Personality: How would your friends and/or family describe you?
  • Interests, hobbies, and activities: What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
  • Entertainment: What types of music do you like? ...
  • Roommate relationship: What are you hoping for in a roommate?

What are 3 pros of having a roommate? ›

Seven positives of having a roommate
  • Emotional support and companionship. ...
  • Cultural exchange and learning. ...
  • Social connection and networking. ...
  • Shared responsibilities and stress reduction. ...
  • Feelings of safety and security. ...
  • Enhanced mental health. ...
  • Financial stability and peace of mind.

What should not be shared with a stranger? ›

Don't give out personal information (name, age, address, phone number, social security number) to strangers. Never meet in person with an online stranger unless you get your parent's permission and have them come with you. Never invite a stranger to come meet you in person or call you at your home.

What is it called when you share a house with someone? ›

Joint tenancy, tenancy in common, and other joint ownership options.

What is the golden rule for roommates? ›

Respect personal space.

One of the key things to remember when living with roommates, or anyone for that matter, is to respect their personal space. Even if you and your roommate are very good friends or have very outgoing personalities, you'll still need to be alone sometimes.

How do introverts deal with roommates? ›

Simply part ways with your roommates with a smile (and if they ask, you can say you've got a Netflix show to binge). In shared rooms this may seem harder, but little things like wearing headphones (you don't even need to be listening to music) send a polite signal that you're not available to talk.

How do you live peacefully with roommates? ›

10 Tips for Living with a Roommate
  1. Get to know them. This is an important part of moving in with a new person. ...
  2. Communicate. Communication is key when moving in with someone new. ...
  3. Set boundaries. ...
  4. Share responsibilities. ...
  5. Become familiar with your roommate's schedule. ...
  6. Keep an open mind. ...
  7. Be considerate. ...
  8. Wear headphones.
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What are the cons of home sharing? ›

Challenges may include reduced privacy, potential conflicts over shared spaces and duties, and differing lifestyles.

How do you sleep in a shared house? ›

5 Top Tips for Getting a Great Night's Sleep in a Shared House
  1. Pick Your House Mates Wisely. ...
  2. Lay Back and Relax. ...
  3. Communication vs. ...
  4. De-Clutter. ...
  5. Mi Casa Su Casa.

Why is living with a roommate good? ›

Advantages Of Having A Roommate

Having a roommate can be a great way to split the costs of rent and bills, cut down on household tasks, and have someone to socialize with.

Do roommates make you happier? ›

If you're a person who thrives on companionship and shared experiences—and values the support of a live-in friend—you might find more happiness living with a roommate.

What are some good things about living with roommates about living alone? ›

All of your expenses are cut in half with equally shared expenses (i.e. rent, utilities, renters insurance, etc.). I found it difficult to cook for just one person when I was single and living in an apartment. With a roommate, you can alternate cooking responsibilities and share the grocery expenses.

What do you value in a roommate? ›

You'll want to find a roommate who is responsible and can be counted on to pay their share of the rent and bills on time. This quality is important because it shows that they are capable of taking care of themselves and that they understand the importance of being a good roommate.

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